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elyse moses's avatar

This whole thing of parents admitting to being "educated" by their 6-year-olds is bonkers. The children aren't just a magically enlightened bunch; they are parroting what the adults at their schools are telling them. Every time I read this stuff it just strikes me as parents wanting to believe and desperate to demonstrate that their kids are the smartest, snowflakiest kids in the room.

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I’m gay and admittedly fairly assimilationist (referring back to the old divide in gay rights movements between the more radical liberationists and the more conservative assimilationists). I’m married (been with my husband for 24 years). We have a kid who is in kindergarten. I’ve never been much of a “radical” so it’s possible my temperament is such that gender queer stuff will always be confusing to me. That said, I have a strong libertarian streak so for adults I’m very much in the camp of you do you.

But it’s the gender radical embrace of essentialism and catastrophism (meaning that failures to accord with exactly what a gender radical wants at a given moment amounts to an existential threat to their very person) which lose me. I in my mid 40s and I still have to navigate coming out every day. For example, because I have a child, people often assume I have a wife. No big deal. I correct them, or not, depending on the situation. But regardless, it is not a threat to my personhood or my ego or whatever.

I was wondering the other day why gender queerness has taken over to the extent that is has. Sexuality--gay vs straight or bisexual--seems now almost an afterthought.

To distill my thoughts into a single question: Why are people putting their pronouns after their names but not their sexuality?

If I were still in the dating pool, it seems like it would be far more helpful if people had taken up the habit of appending their sexuality to their names rather than their pronouns. 😜

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